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     First of all, we want to thank you so much for visiting our blog.  We want to especially welcome our international readers; we hope that our writings make sense in the context of your culture.  We hesitated for so long in establishing this page because, in all honesty, we thought no one would care. We have experienced quite the opposite.

     Over the past few months, we have watched the daily hits roll in from visitors around the world.  The response has been steady and well beyond my expectations. With that being said, we want so much more from this website. We do not want this to simply be a place where faceless voyeurs peer into our personal life; we desire a dialogue, not a monologue. Your involvement is the next step in this story's progression. We implore you to connect, share, and discuss.

   If you have enjoyed this page, We ask you to interact in some way.  We want to hear about your experiences.  Comment (signed or anonymously) or email, and tell us what you've learned and how you've traveled down this road.  Most importantly, if you need to talk, we're here.  We are not psychiatrists, pastors, or sages. We are simply broken people who are willing to show our wounds to the world. We can help. It may seem awkward, but your marriage's survival is worth the discomfort. Seriously.

    Furthermore, we also urge you to subscribe via email, and even consider sharing with your friends via Facebook, Pinterest or whatever platform you prefer. We believe in our story, and we ask that you help us share the honesty and hope contained in these pages.  This blog's success depends on you! We can be found on various social media pages -- visit our resources page for more info.

   We are totally new to this type of writing, so we value your input in this manner as well.  If something resonates in you, tell us!  When you find passages that could be improved, bring it to our attention.  If you vehemently disagree with what we've written, sound off.  You can even post anonymously if you feel more comfortable with that.

     This is just the beginning of a long and epic adventure for us.  We look forward to sharing our experiences by whatever means, and we are unspeakably grateful for the opportunity to chronicle our journey through this medium.  Stay tuned.

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8 comments:

  1. I admire your candour, I think Christian men need to be open and accountable to one another about thoughts of straying. You are right, our love between man and woman should be completely selfless.
    There needs to be forgiveness too, after all what has Christ forgiven in our lives. Our marriage vows are not just made to our spouse, but also to God and he is the final arbitrator of our faithfulness.
    Wives too, need to be faithful in being that special someone, to whom the husband can come home too after a terrible day at work.

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  2. I am impressed by the honesty and openness in the articles. God bless u. through your vulnerability others will be set free.

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  3. You seem to "get it." My husband cheated (porn addict who acted out right after the birth of our second child) and he's still struggling to understand the weight of his actions. He just doesn't seem to know what to do to try and make things right. We are terribly stuck right now. Finding wise counsel is very difficult. If you haven't walked this path, you just DO NOT get it. I have been pretty open about what has happened in our marriage with family and friends because no one talks about it and yet the statistics are that many people go through this. Why can't we talk about it? Why do we have to suffer alone and stay stuck? Thank you for being courageous. Thank you for letting the pain of this have purpose. Thank you for standing up under the shame of it all and trying to do right by your wife and daughters. Bless you and your family.

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    1. Thank you so much for the encouragement. The sad truth is that the path to recovery is not clearly outlined. It's a mystery, and you often feel like you're just grasping in the dark for something to hang onto. Many people who have affairs fumble the landing after the affair is initially revealed. Our road hasn't always been smooth, but we are thankful for the chance to share our story through this medium.

      We hope that this blog has provided some glimpse of hope and clarity in the midst of all the chaos. That's why we talk about our struggles, although it can be difficult and awkward sometimes. We have to start that conversation somehow.

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  4. My husband has cheated several times over the course of our marriage. He admitted to cheating years after I had first confronted him. Now he acts as if I should be over it because it was two years since the last time. What he doesn't get is that all the lies and covering up have been just as bad. And because he is only now admitted the truth after I have badgered it out of him it's like it just happened. I can't understand why he won't own his mistakes , put them all on the table , and let us move forward in honesty and integrity, even if it means getting a divorce. At least we can both begin fresh deceit free lives.

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    1. It is so incredibly important for the cheater to take responsibility for their actions. Healing is practically impossible otherwise. It may be "in the past" but healing is needed right now. And healing can't happen if the problem is ignored or swept under the rug. Praying the your husband will realize how desperately you need for him to do the right thing and take responsibility for his actions. Admitting to making a mistake is the "easy" part. Now the hard stuff begins... he has to dig his heels in and do the hard work that is required to rebuild your marriage. We're praying for you guys! God bless!

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  5. Hannah...I wish we could sit n talk. I could really use a friend. Its been 2 yrs since I found out bout my husband. We decided to stay but it is oh so hard to forget. I forgave him with all my heart but when we argue I tend to remember n through it in his face. I really need sum advice. I cant wait to hear from u back. Thank you so much for this blog I kno it will help me, help my marriage.

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  6. The last paragraph of your article about the movie was written to come to me.
    I am attempting to reconcile with my husband who I busted having a 3 year affair with a younger and also married co-worker. He said he wanted a divorce. I filed. Went through 6 months of heart wrenching, crying, therapy, reading everything, not to mention my two beautiful teenage daughters who found out. The girls and I were doing fine. I was prepared to move forward. We were within a month of a divorce and he came back. Crying, begging that he would do anything to get his family back. We let him back. We have been in therapy and going to church. He answers all my questions. He has changed. I still feel as though the only reason he wanted to come back was to rebuild the relationship with his children, not lose his job and not have the affair partner's husband find out (I didn't tell him). I am so ready to give up. I'm tired of the nightmares, the hardness of my heart, the shock, the sadness. I am trying.

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