Wednesday, June 17, 2015

The Law of Entropy

Your marriage has a default setting. Do you know what it is?

Well, before I tell you all about your marriage's inner framework, I want to describe how messy my house gets. No matter how hard Hannah and I work to keep our home clutter-free, it seems bent on becoming disheveled again. Maybe our home is possessed. If you have kids in your home, you'll especially know what I mean. Many days I feel like we're fighting against the undercurrent of dirty laundry and the riptide of dishes in the sink. It's a swim upstream. We are fighting an uphill battle.

I've begun to accept that the inside of my home mimics the natural, carnal world. Our doormat should read, "Welcome to the jungle, baby." You see, science acknowledges this thing called The Law of Entropy, wherein disorder only grows over time in a closed system. To simplify the idea, you could summarize it by saying that disorder is the way of nature. Nature never organizes itself; it only becomes more chaotic as time passes. That's my house. If left to its own patterns, disorder only grows over time. I can't just wait it out. I can't just sleep my days away until the laundry is magically washed and folded by itself. Intervention must take place.

The picture I've painted for you is the same thing that's going on in your marriage. Many couples foolishly walk into marriage assuming that disaster is an exception and that success is the default. Wrong. I would argue that, just as our mortal bodies are prone to decay, our marriages default to disorder. Disorder only grows over time. Intervention must take place. You will not just wait out the storm of your marital issues -- you must take action.

I'm passionate about the underlying thoughts that drive married people and their perception of how relationships work, because I firmly believe these misconceptions can lead to tragedy. It's time for us to inspect the foundation of our marriages and the very frame their built upon, because we've often let pop psychology and romantic comedies form our theology of love. Naivete is the enemy of your marriage. If we are going to fight for our spouses and for the purity of our union, it must begin with soberly facing the truth.

Failure is the default for your marriage. I say this not to discourage or alarm you, but to compel you to action. Intervention must take place. We must intentionally sew the seeds of love, respect, and accountability into our marriages.  Please take a moment today to reflect upon your inner beliefs about relationships. What you believe will be manifested in what you do, for better or for worse.

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